A few months ago, I have read about an article on marriage licensed. This article is about a country (forgotten is which one) officially announced that couples will only be married for a couple of years (not sure is it 2, 5 or 10 years). After the valid marriage period, the marriage certificate will be void and the couples that were once husband and wife will officially be single again. This also means that the couples do not have to divorce with court.
Personally, I have this thought of “Is there really a need to have this Marriage Certificate”. Many couples have exchange sacred vows in the face of official witnesses, families, friends and even god. Those intimate words in the vows that supposed to join man and woman for life and those words that reflects what is in the couple’s heart, mind and soul at that very moment. Some live happily ever after, some manage to tolerate their partner for the rest of their life and some eventually filed for divorced or separation.
After this post, I know a lot might really ask or question me why am I that pessimistic about marriage? Perhaps is due to various real life cases I saw in life or perhaps is my natural born character keep giving me this fear in marriage. Actually, I just do not know the reason too. Peepz, do really think of this question. Is marriage cert just a proof of marriage? Is marriage cert just important because government bodies had said so? Is marriage cert important because it marks the start of a new life between the two?
Back in the olden days, our ancestors do not have this marriage cert documents. However, they were able to maintain their marriage for life. I know we should not compare it to the olden days as those “Mata”, which we once called, wore short pants. Think of it in this way, our ancestors were also once youngsters and they do have many crazy ideas, they had also gone through many vicissitudes in their life and marriage, but they still manage to pull through and live with their “soul mate” until the end.
So is this marriage cert still that important? We can just live with the other party that we love and stay together and do whatever we want to “maintain” the relationship and that it settled. Isn’t love just a matter between the two? Why official bodies have to be involved in this? Moreover, why should couples pay thousand over dollars to divorce in court?
Why is it so important to be able to hold up a marriage certificate and say “we’re married” instead of simply saying, “We’re a couple” without a certificate? What can we gain by having society acknowledge the relationship as a marriage? It is clear that with a marriage cert, it makes people feel more secure as the act of “officially” marriage gives a public stamp to their commitment. However, some feel that getting married do break them up because they feel bound in.
Lastly, to those people that longed to get married for that once in a lifetime romantic experience, I do have to apologise to you. I still do hope you will have a sweet marriage and live happily ever after. Seriously, I have not idea why I am writing this post because my age to get married is just far way ahead of time… *puzzled*